Gen. 18: 20-32
Luke 11: 1-13
“I tell you, even though he will not get up and give him anything because he is his friend, at least because of his persistence he will get up and give him whatever he needs.”
Prayer: O God, good and gracious, by your Spirit, may both our faith and our understanding of prayer be enriched today. Amen.
We live in a sound byte world, don’t we? Snippets of the news come to us on TV, or on our news feed. I know I often scroll through the headlines, just to see what’s going on, and only click on a link to open an article if I’m interested in it. You can get a fairly good idea of what’s going on in the world just by scrolling through sound bytes and headlines.
The problem is that all too often, some sound byte, some headline is taken out of context. And, we get the wrong idea, or an inaccurate takeaway, and we get led astray. Like one writer quipped, “Separate the word ‘text’ from ‘context’ and all that remains is a ‘con’” (Stewart Stafford, https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/out-of-context)).
Well, I’ve been part of many conversations about prayer, and if there’s one Bible passage people almost always take out of context and get led astray, it’s verse 10 where Jesus says “Everyone who asks receives, and everyone who searches finds, and everyone who knocks, the door will be opened.” Maybe a close second is the one where Jesus says “If in my name you ask me for anything, I will do it (see John 14: 13-14).
Taken out of context, we’re in trouble, because neither of those are true most of the time. They’re too formulaic. It’s too linear, two dimensional. X + Y will = Z. Or say the right words, and God will answer your prayers the way you want. Which is another way of saying we want God to sign-on to our own desires, our whims, our projects. We want God to agree with us on our own hang-ups, stereotypes, prejudices, or our own perspectives because, you know, we think our understanding is best. Our take on things is accurate.
And we feel deceived when we try to follow the formula of those two bible verses taken out of context, and it doesn’t work out. Which leaves a bad taste in some mouths. Then I hear the mutterings that prayer doesn’t work. And some lose faith because of that.
But, in the broader context of Jesus’ teaching on prayer, he emphasizes that by far, the most significant thing about prayer is to keep at it. To persist at it.
Jesus tells this parable about a friend in need to make the point about being persistent in prayer, but he just as easily could have reminded his disciples about Abraham’s story in Genesis. Abraham was considered a friend of God who showed persistence in prayer, by asking again and again for God to do what was just. Abraham did not give up. He persistently talked God down from 50 to 45, to 40, 30, 20 and then 10! If 10 righteous people could be found in Sodom and Gomorrah, God would spare the cities. Abraham was persistent in his prayer, in his communication with God.
I was talking with our neighbor last Friday, and she asked me what my sermon was about for today. I told her my title: “It Pays to Persist in Prayer.” It triggered a memory for her. She told me that at her daughter’s baby shower, everyone was asked to write something for the baby that they wished the baby could have. My neighbor wrote that she would like to give that baby a sense of grit and tenacity and stick-to-it-tive-ness. A gift of not giving up, even in the most challenging of circumstances. She said that we should never give up on prayer. Exactly!
So, back to the parable, Jesus says God is like a Friend you go to at midnight asking for help. And God, the Friend basically says, “Buzz off… don’t bother me. I am unavailable. I’m busy. I’m in bed, so are my kids. And whatever other excuse could be thought up. Besides you know how to get the help you need. So, do it yourself.” And I was like, “Whoa! If that’s the kind of friend God is, who needs enemies?”
To be sure, the Friend in Jesus’ parable is not nice. But, the man went on knocking anyway. Because he knows something about the Friend… that the Friend may not be nice all the time, but he knows know the Friend is good. As Christina Villa, one of our Stillspeaking writers offered this past week, there is a difference between being nice and being good (Stillspeaking Daily Devotional, July 19, 2022).
I was reminded of the scene in the Chronicles of Narnia, the Lion, Witch and the Wardrobe by C.S.Lewis when Lucy finds out that Aslan, the King of Narnia is really a lion (who represents Jesus). Lucy has some fear about Aslan the lion as she asks “Is he quite safe?” And the response is, “Safe? Who said anything about safe? ‘Course he isn’t safe. But he is good. He’s the King, I tell you.” God is not nice all the time. God is not safe all the time. But God is good all the time.
Jesus says that if we, who are imperfect and prone to evil and mean-spiritedness at times, know how to be good with our own families and loved ones; how much more then will God, because God is good, give us what we need, not always what we want, to those who ask! We keep going to God in prayer persistently because we have faith in God’s goodness. In all our circumstances.
So, I think that means we are encouraged to get out of the linear, two-dimensional, formula-style of prayer—to what though?
My ideas and faith are still developing. I don’t have all the answers by any stretch. There are a lot of “I don’t know’s” to many questions. But I want to share a little of what I’ve learned on the journey. I strongly lean toward the idea that prayer is actually a relationship. God relating to you. You relating to God. We are connected to God. Like the way a fish is connected to the water it swims in. The water all around and in the fish gives it life. So, God is part of us. We are part of God. Prayer is the life. Like breathing…breathing is always giving life to our bodies, whether we are aware we are breathing or not. Prayer as a relationship is always happening, always giving life to us spiritually. Prayer is like your heart pumping, giving you life all the time, whether you’re aware of it or not.
And I think prayer is multi-dimensional. In this ongoing relationship you can communicate with God, sometimes with words, but most of the time without them. Words come on the conscious plain, but non-verbal prayer comes mostly on the sub-conscious and unconscious plains, where the spirituality of life mostly is. Where feelings and sighs too deep for words emerge. When sounds of silence or profound music move us to tears. When joy comes because someone is celebrating something like when a baby is born. When compassion comes because someone is in pain or is struggling, like when we know a loved one or friend has died or is dying. When our hearts feel called to activism in the face of injustice, like when hear the voices of millions of refugees at our borders, or the voices of the homeless on the streets, or the voices of the Ukrainian people suffering under Russia’s assault. Like when we hear the cries of the parents who feel the intense agony of burying their children killed by an assailant with a gun.
Maybe those kinds of situations, and more, are the “friends who arrive in the middle of the night” and come to us in need?
And our sighs, our guttural sounds, our heart-felt emotion, our tears, our words in a deep way all become prayers for them. Because we communicate about all these and more with God multi-dimensionally, relationally in prayer.
So, yeah, prayer I think is constant contact with God. I think that’s what Paul means when he encouraged “unceasing prayer” in 1 Thessalonians 5. On the two-dimensional plain, we can’t pray unceasingly. But, in the multi-dimensional, well-rounded understanding of prayer, we can.
Prayer as constant contact with God is shown in the way Jesus was in constant contact with God. He was one with God. He desires the same of us.
And it pays to persist in prayer because it helps bring about a world that is defined by God’s love, not hatred. By healing, not harm. By hope, not futility. By goodness, not necessarily niceness.
It pays for us to persist in prayer. Let us do so in the context of Holy Communion in a few minutes. Amen.
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